Anonymous asked: Re: “geek” and “nerd” acquiring negative connotations. Good. Keeps the posers away.
The kind of negative connotations I mean include the obvious - unattractive neurodivergent socially awkward men who like SFF, pick any two - but also things like “unattractive socially awkward men who are sexually entitled” or “unattractive socially awkward men who harass me” or “unattractive socially awkward men who are misogynists” or just “men who are sexually entitled, harass me, or are misogynists”.
So, contemporary feminism has done its job: the association between sexual predators and neurodivergent men, especially if they’re overweight or not conventionally good-looking, is becoming culturally reflexive. But I’m not sure how we deal with it. If that’s where the word nerd is headed - and I’m very worried that it is - it’s not something we want to reclaim. There’s a very fine line between pointing out - correctly! - that anything vulnerable people do can and will be read as predatory, even if it would be innocuous coming from a hot neurotypical guy, and denying actual harassment when it happens. I don’t know what the solution is and I really wish they would just leave us alone.
I’ve been watching the words “geek” and “nerd” slide slowly and inexorably back into the realm of the pejorative. “No, no,” I want to shout - at whom, it’s not clear. “That’s not fair! We already reclaimed them!”
kuvira is my favorite character of the entire LoK universe. here’s my take of how she’d look in prison because i have a really hard time painting metal because i’m interested in painting her vulnerability as well as her strength
when i was really little, my babysitter only spoke spanish with me so i became bilingual but i never knew when i was speaking spanish or english. one time i told my mom i wanted an avocado & she understood but then when i said the same thing to my babysitter later that day, she burst into tears with laughter because i was saying “quiero abogado” which means “i want a lawyer.”
imagine a two year old repeatedly saying “i want a lawyer!” as an adult laughs at her.
I was also bilingual as a small child, for the same reason. Which is how I got away with calling my kindergarten teacher an insane cow (poor word choice, I know, but I was five).
In my defense, she was at the time yelling at small dyspraxic me for not cleaning my lunch up fast enough.